Grilled cheese & skateboarding …the story of real life HEA

(Mostly a repost)

Yesterday was our 23rd anniversary.

 Silhouette of Skateboarder jumping in city on background of promenade and sea

My DH used to skateboard.  I can remember sitting on the curb and watching him when I was a kid.  I mentioned it on twitter and somebody asked me how long I’ve known him-how we’d met.

I’ve known him since I was ten or eleven.  My older brother used to skateboard with him.  I can remember watching them together and thinking… “He’s so cute…”

I also remember kicking him in the shins.  Yes, I had it bad.  And yes, I was mean.  And I mentioned the fact that I was ten or eleven, right?  I one time charged him $2 to make him a grilled cheese sandwich.

We started dating right around the time I turned fifteen.  He’d come over looking for my older brother, who wasn’t there.  I very snottily demanded, “So how come you never come over here to see ME?”

He gives me this weird look and says, “I didn’t know you wanted me to.”

A few days later, he calls me, asks if I’d want to go to the fireworks for the 4th of July with him.  A few weeks later, a movie.  I was fifteen.  He was getting ready to turn eighteen.  We’ve been together ever since.

When I was nineteen, he proposed.  We married when I was twenty.  I love him more every day.

Loving him is natural-it feels like I was born to love him, and I think I was.

Doesn’t mean it’s always been easy…it hasn’t.  Making a marriage work is just that-work. 

The past two years have been hard, harder than almost anything. Losing my brother hit both me & the guy, but the effects on me were brutal. But I got through….because God gave me him. The guy’s the one person who knows me inside out & has always, always had my back.

We’re not perfect. We’ve got flaws & have had mega fights. But we make it through.

Because it’s worth it.

5 Replies to “Grilled cheese & skateboarding …the story of real life HEA”

  1. Congratulations! You are so fortunate to have such a rock to lean on. My daughter has been with her high school sweetheart for 6 yrs now and just got engaged last month. Thank you for all your stories and hope your guy gives you plenty of inspiration.

  2. I agree with you on marriage being alot of work. I met my hubby when we were 15. We hung around the same group of friends. We became best friends. We went to different colleges but stayed in contact. When I was 23 my dad died after an illness. I got the call about my dad and I immediately called my guy. Woke his whole family. He came on his motorcycle. Stayed the whole day, washing dishes and making tea for visitors and took care of my mom and myself. We started dating months after and got married 2 years later. This October will be 30 yrs married.

  3. Thank you for sharing this hope you had a great anniversary and have many more wonderful years together . My husband and i have been together 16 years married 5 now and you are right marriage is not always easy but i would be lost without his support and love. We met by pure dumb luck i feel blessed to be by his side.

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